People often refer to older single's as 'leftovers.' Well, I am no leftover, nor do I deserve to settle for someone that is.

Monday, January 18, 2010

Random Thoughts...

Where have I been you ask? Don’t worry; I have not abandoned my blog or readers by actually carrying through with the previously threatened hiatus from males and the world of dating. No, I went out of town with the girls for the long weekend, which brings me to the topic of today’s post. Everything we do as single residents of this universe can potentially play a role in our development in the relationship crusade. What I want and what you want if you are single like me, is a date right? When we dream of this taking place, sometimes we tend to only negotiate the tip of the iceberg. It’s important however, to think deeper, to really prepare in every way to make the date a success. How does this relate to my weekend with the girls you ask? Well, what happens when you get out on the date, you’ve prepared questions to ask your man but then realize that you have nothing interesting to say about yourself! Building experiences in our lives is crucial, not only for our own enjoyment and well being, but for the development of our personality and likeability with members of the opposite sex. It’s important for us to build up a storehouse of experiences to share about ourselves that are interesting, exciting, and worthy of sharing. These experiences can portray who we are and give our men a visual of the life they will experience if they decided to further pursue our womanly offerings.

So, on with this weekend’s experiences right! Well, I took a trip with two other hot single women quickly drawing nearer my age with every passing day. Sorry girls, it’s true, despite that you still have a few years! Anyway, hanging out with other ladies of your status makes you feel less alone in this struggle toward marriage. Besides that, it’s always interesting the things that come up when you put a few girls together for several days at a time. Anyway, we road tripped down to Southern Utah and experienced the beauty of Zion National Park, the joys of Outlet shopping in St. George, and a lot of time exploring and sharing the wonders of the internet. We laughed, spent long hours in our jammies, ate lots of pizza and discussed the situation in which we now find ourselves. I would like to share a few random thoughts and weird lessons learned from each other on the trip. Number one: the topic of double dippers.

Dang the Double Dippers!!

What’s the deal with women my age and younger who get married twice before I even get a chance at it once? I’m just sayin, it doesn’t really seem fair. We all agree that they should step back and leave the good ones for us, rightly allowing us to experience the joys of marriage and all that comes with it, and then they can move on all they want. I mean, the pickins are slim as it is. We all know it’s hard to find a good man. They are out there though, I know it. It just seems like my chances might be a little better if some of the other girls would just lay off a little and do the right thing by stepping back and letting me have a turn! Okay, this is all in good humor so don’t get me wrong by thinking that I am bitter…okay, maybe just a little, haha!


One more random thought and maybe even a lesson to be learned. While in St. George, one of our friends decided to go on a date with a guy she knows there. She doesn’t know him extremely well so we devised a plan just in case the date turned sour. The plan was that she would send us a code word if she wasn’t enjoying it and we would come and rescue her. As it turned out, she had a great time and didn’t have to use the code word, no, we had to use it on her so that she would actually leave the date and come back to us! Anyway, this code word system came in quite handy throughout the rest of the weekend. So, lesson learned: code words such as, “pineapple” are very useful for getting you out of sticky situations. Make sure to always have one when presented with a situation that you are unsure of!

Now, here I am, back in Salt Lake City and ready to take it on again, one male at a time. Watch out because I’m comin at ya full force. Tomorrow night is institute and if I go (I’m planning on it) I promise to be a little bit more successful than last week. I’m ready to walk in there with my vibe turned all the way up (If you are confused by this, read Jill’s comment on the previous post). I should have a date scheduled with Mr. Momma’s boy this week also, so definitely stay tuned for the results on this one. Meanwhile, I will keep preparing topics of conversation for the date that include learning more about him, as well as some interesting things about myself that will portray me in the light which I hope to be seen.


Jill said...

Great post! Good for you :)

Kristen said...

Your friends sound like they are really awesome!

Livin it up said...

Thanks Jill. Well Kristen, you take what you can get,hahaha! Just kidding, they are indeed pretty awesome!