People often refer to older single's as 'leftovers.' Well, I am no leftover, nor do I deserve to settle for someone that is.

Monday, December 28, 2009

Online Dating...Are you kidding me?!

I don't know about you but I just love it when people try to give me advice about my marital status or my life as a result of my marital status. No offense to my great married friends who are just trying to help out but if you say any of the following things to a single person, think twice about it and try not to okay:
"It'll happen when you least expect it"
"You have to love yourself before anyone else can love you"
"Are you feeling like it's right? Do you feel like you are ready?"
"When it's right, it'll happen"
"Have you prayed about it?"
"You are such a cute girl, how come nobody has snatched you up yet??" favorite:
"Have you tried the internet?"
Oh my goodness, if I have to hear any of these pieces of advice or anything like unto them one more time... Anyway, not the point. The point is, the advice is not bad, I just don't want to hear about it anymore. I may have figured some of these things out on my own over the last 30 years that I have had to contemplate my singleness. Today however, we are going to talk a little bit about the last one, "have you tried the internet?" Well, I honestly am one of the biggest opponents of internet dating. I have been on several of the sites briefly and have been appalled at the boldness of people when they are not face to face...and I don't mean bold in a good way. In lite of my new experiment however, I decided to give it a fair try. Well, that and my brother who is equally opposed made me enter a pact with him to date one guy this week from the internet!
Due to my very objectionable attitude toward internet dating, I wasn't about to sign on with a site that I had to pay for, so I went for a free one. After a few days of searching, I can't say that my attitude has gotten any better on the matter. For starters, the guys on there are lame!! I guess it's just like in real life, it takes a whole lot of weeding out to find a decent man. There have been a few that have caught my eye however. So, you find a decent guy's profile, then what?? Well, I have tried emailing several, taking a different approach every time. Sometimes I'm funny, sometimes serious, I comment on something about their profile, on a picture...anything to try and get their attention. Out of the several that I have emailed, I have only had 2 guys respond. One of them pretty much gave up after I posted my picture...nice. The other one was only 23, need I say more? Now, I'm not the prettiest girl around but I really don't think of myself as completely unfortunate looking?? I take care of myself, I workout, dress nicely, wear make-up, etc. I really cannot compete with these other girls on there though. Seriously, are you sure you're LDS?? Some of their pics are pretty, to keep this appropriate? You get what I'm saying, right? So yeah, so far I can't say that I'm having a whole lot of luck but when I find a technique that works, I will let you know. Online dating seems to be one challenge after another. What pics do I put up? Then, what do I say that won't make me sound like every other lame sauce girl out there? How do I find a decent guy? When I do, how do I get their attention? So many things to contemplate and figure out but I will conquer the world of online dating...or at least get one date so that I can fulfill my pact with the bro! I'll keep you posted!


Tacy said...

I hope I haven't been one of those married people to give bad advice to you because some of those were the lamest things I've ever heard! I read them and was thinking, "Are you serious? Someone actually said that to you?" I just think that sometimes life doesn't always turn out how you think it will. Even as a married person, I'm not suddenly living a perfect, blissful life. I still have plenty of disappointments and hardships and not everything has turned out the way I thought it would or wanted it to. But I guess you just keep going and hope that someday it will. I guess that's what that Paul Coelho quote is sort of trying to say. Anyway, as for online dating, luckily I never had to try it so I can't really say anything of worth on the subject, but I hope you can find at least one decent guy on there!

Livin it up said...

Haha, you are sooo not one of them! You are a great friend! So, are they and they mean well, I'm just sayin, it gets old ya know? I really do get a lot of great advice from my married friends though so don't think I don't appreciate it, I do. There are just certain things that are oversaid! I agree with you about the true and that's exactly what I'm trying to do.

Heidi said...

You are not lame AT ALL! You are so beautiful and smart! I need to set you up with my brother!! I am going to add your blog to my blog list!

Livin it up said...

Yay!! Thanks!