People often refer to older single's as 'leftovers.' Well, I am no leftover, nor do I deserve to settle for someone that is.

Tuesday, October 26, 2010

Mr. Refreshing #12

It wasn’t the fact that the air was cold, crisp, and clean, or that his breath didn’t smell that made tonight’s date refreshing. No, it was the fact that it wasn’t the same date that I had the last two weeks, as well as almost every other date all year. Nope, it was a little different. More thought and less boring conversation really made the night a success.

So, here’s how it went down. As usual, toward the afternoon part of the day I started to feel that awful sense of dread. I began to wonder why my friend set me up with this guy. Why did I wonder? Well, she is my age and single too…so why doesn’t she date him? You always have to wonder that when a fellow single traveler on the ship of life sets you up right? I tried to force all negative thoughts out of my head and went for a quick run between work and the date…just to build up some happy endorphins and let out a little nerves/dread. Running always makes you feel better, right? Yet worse at the same time…it’s funny that way.

Well, Mr. Refreshing picked me up right on time and we headed downtown. It was really nice that he picked me up and wasn’t on a bike because it was snowing. It would have been a cold trip downtown. Anyway, on the way out we mostly talked about me and I felt bad because we were talking about me. At the same time, it was so nice that I didn’t feel like I had to carry the conversation…it just flowed easily, mostly thanks to him. We got out most of the usual things on the way there and then put it behind us to have a little more fun. Really, I want to know the guy but I just don’t want to have that conversation again, ya know??

So, we ended up at the church history museum. This is always a cool place, and while it was cool tonight…it was also warm which is a bonus on a snowy evening. I always enjoy seeing all the old stuff from way back in the day and learning a little more about church history. This guy seems well read on the subject and I learned a thing or two. When it comes to history, I’m a little bit of a slacker and I can never remember details so I had nothing interesting to contribute sadly. On the way there and in the museum, it became apparent that the man had a sense of humor…thank goodness! It was nice to laugh, I needed that.

So, after the museum, we grabbed some hot chocolate to go, and walked over to temple square. It started to snow on us just as we did. We stood under the tabernacle and watched the snow fall down over the temple…it was really pretty! As we did so, we played that game where you make up stories about the people walking by. I was a little shy at first and ummm, not very good at that game, but it was fun to try. For some reason, my stories all came out slightly disturbing and now he thinks I’m emo (even though I had to tell him what that was)and blind, due to my inability to tell male from female, but that’s okay. ? He suggested that in my future optometry appointments, I add the gender deciphering feature to my glass. Well, that and he gave me a lesson on how to tell the difference based mostly on their clothing, which isn’t always the best indicator!

So, either these tipped him off to my trench coat past, or the story about my near death experience at a buffet and my fear of dying at such a place…how embarrassing would that be?? Okay, didn’t really happen but it made a good story anyway, right?

So, it was fun to laugh and talk about other things and make up stupid things…like I used to do with someone else. But I didn’t think of him then (someone else) because it wasn’t worth it or necessary. Mr. Refreshing seems like a good guy; very nice, gentlemanly, funny, and easy to be around. Thanks friend for setting me up!

Ps…#10 called me while I was out. My phone was off so he left a voicemail. I guess I’ll just see if he calls back again because I don’t feel like putting out the effort to call him back. He was boring and didn’t make up funny stories or do something outside of my regular box….despite being a very nice, good guy.


emax_wright said...

Hey! Congrats on Refreshing #12! Any chemistry?

Anonymous said...

Church history museum?!? Cliché to say the least. Wow...out of the ordinary, sure, but there is so much more history in the SL valley for a life-long LDS member to discover. Or for heaven's sake branch out. Discover the other side of SLC. It's not that bad of a place.
Mr Refreshing does sound a little refreshing from the norm. Sounds like you really like him. Work on the whole gender identity thing before going out again.

Growing Up Skye said...

I'm glad you had a fun time with a nice, funny guy. Hopefully he'll call you back!

Livin it up said...

I don't was just nice to have a fun evening for once. I'm not real worried either way.

As for the date, it didn't matter so much what we did. The company was good and at this point that's all I ask. I have seen lots of the valley and there are tons of cool things to do and see but I don't see how one is better than the other when you are choosing. You kinda make it what it is...and this one was fun.

Anonymous said...

I learned once how to tell the difference between a boy and girl. I think I was 2. But here's an easy way to remember I learned in 2nd grade, that might may you crave a candy bar "Almond Joy's have nuts Mounds don't". By the way boys are the Almond Joy's and girls are the Mounds. HAHAHA I'm funny!

Livin it up said...

Haha thanks! In the dark, with some distance and lots of coats and layer, minus my glasses, I just get a little confused sometimes...that's all. :)

Anonymous said...

Good point. I'm glad they were clothed!
--Mounds (I may be a Mounds but I prefer Almond Joys)

Growing Up Skye said...

I totally agree with your above statement, Teresa. Sometimes the best dates are the simplest ones. Sometimes doing something you've already done with a new person or a new perspective makes it a totally different experience!